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Tuesday, April 27th, 2010
Listened do an “oldey” the other day and realized that The Pet Shop Boys gave perfect advice on how to judge if something is working for you or not: “Oh, I missed it. The more that it hurts, the less that it works.”
Somewhere in time I was taught that pain means gain. After years of dealing with pain I have to say, and years of gain, this is dead wrong. I don’t agree that we have to experience pain to have gain. My gain was not proportional to my pain. I’m giving up this limiting belief and embracing a new belief: Joy leads to more joy. Success is born from doing what feels good, not what hurts.
I’m not saying that life isn’t full of challenges. They happen. I can and will learn the lessons and move on. But, I don’t have to buy into the pain and do what hurts in order to get to where I want to go. Instead, I prefer to do what feels right and good right now.
I am now creating a fulfilling and successful life one breath at a time. Starting now.
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Tuesday, April 6th, 2010
My husband and I were calling a bank officer yesterday via conference mode and got her assistant. The assistant said she’d give the message to the officer with our phone number. My husband said, “Thanks. Goodbye.” The assistant hung up. No “goodbye” or closure. Nothing. Just click.
Dave said, “That really backs me up. Why can’t people have the courtesy to say, ‘Goodbye?’” I agreed, it would be kind and respectful to say “Goodbye.” However, I pounced on the phrase, “Backed me up.” It’s so spot on. It’s exactly what happens when we get upset with people or life in general. We take issue with something and it backs us up. We get out of present time and start ranting and raving internally (or externally for those more verbal), instead of moving on with our intended life.
Why isn’t life the way we think it should be? Why don’t people act the way we think they should? Why are there so many pebbles, rocks and walls in the road? Perhaps it’s so that we learn to not get backed up by them. It’s just the way it is. We have to deal with it. Stay with what is on our plate and don’t let these obstacles back us up.
How can we avoid it? Here are some tips. First, watch it happen and you’ll know how toxic self righteousness can be. Other ways I cope:
1. Laugh at it. Make a joke.
2. Have compassion. The assistant is either having a bad day or a bad life. She’s stuck somewhere. I send love.
3. Maintain my boundaries. Say to myself, “Sorry, you’re just not worth it.” My happiness is more important than getting irritated by you.
4. Evaluate myself. Note to self, “Hmm. I hope I don’t do that. I need to be conscious of that behavior and see if I do that. It could be a sign or a lesson.”
5. Focus on the present. Say to myself, “It’s not my problem.” Is it? Can I work around this? Is this what I want to focus on now?
There are many opportunities in life to grow. An abrupt assistant gave me the opportunity to notice something in life and share it with you.
Enjoy the ride.
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Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010
We’re doing it. We’re breaking through to new levels of awareness, success and fulfillment. I can feel it and I can see it. Spring is coming in many ways. I’ve been given a sign and am being reminded of this constantly.
few days ago the Robins came to visit. Hundreds of them. They migrate very quickly through here every Spring and Fall, but this year they stopped. Was it the snow up north? For whatever reason, they’re everywhere. We’re surrounded by Robins. This morning the cauchaphony was so loud it was difficult to talk outside.
I love birds anyway and this is a delight. It keeps me smiling, though it snowed yesterday. Times are challenging in many ways. My parents are both ill. My husband’s business is struggling. Friends are experiencing setbacks. But, I know we’re working through all of this. We’re evolving and restructuring ourselves and our lives. It’s going to be great. I know it. The Robins are here and I know that Spring is coming soon. Hope is powerful medicine.
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Sunday, January 31st, 2010
I love this art and these messages.
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Friday, January 29th, 2010
Fearless? Forget it. New fears always come up. That’s how I know where I’m stuck. It helps to show me my personal obstacles and where my next step is. Here are some ways I handle fear when it shows up in my life:
1. Honor it. Look at where it’s coming from.
2. Address the issue. If it’s founded in truth, take action and fix the problem.
3. Meditate. This is always in order. Cleaning out the mental clutter and realigning with Self is integral to being on the right path and releasing fear.
4. Have faith. I know that everything works out for the best. I believe this and tune into it. Remembering past breakthroughs helps.
5. Love me (and others). Love is the ultimate fear obliterator. Both cannot exist at the same time.
When I first started my business I woke up in the middle of the night in a panic. I was afraid that I wouldn’t be able to support myself. Instead of lying around fretting I began to get up and work. When I worked enough I went back to sleep for a few hours. Working was the therapy I needed to heal my fear. And, I made more money to pay the bills.
It’s rare, but I still wake up sometime in fear. First I notice what is on my mind. I address it and take care of it. I then go back to bed. For instance, I have protected all of my assets by placing them in a Living Trust. I woke up at 3 a.m. the other morning with a fearful thought glaring in my head like a neon sign. It said, “You just changed home insurance policies and you put the policy in your own name. It needs to be in the name of the Trust.” Wow. That never would have occurred to me during my waking hours. I got up, emailed my agent (she’s amazing: Janet Taylor of State Farm in ATL). I went back to bed fear-free. When I got back to the computer at 9 am there was an email from Janet saying she’d changed the policy. Fear noted, acted on and issue overcome.
I’ve also noticed from my own and client experiences that fear pops up its head when we actually achieve our dreams. Moving into a new and wonderful way of life means giving up the old, familiar life. Even if the old was painful, it was familiar and somehow safe. Sometimes fear is an indication that we’re expanding. Abraham-Hicks wrote: “Negative emotion means your life has caused expansion, which in the moment of negative emotion you are disallowing. Every time. No exceptions.”
Sometimes fear is an indicator that you’ve made it. When that happens throw fear to the wind, spread your wings and fly.
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Thursday, December 24th, 2009
It’s time to receive now, as we head into the biggest giving day of the year. I hope you’ve all been inspired and are receive much joy today and tomorrow.
1. Giving to “Toys for Tots” is so much fun. I hadn’t been to the toy store in years. It was interesting and heart warming to pick out a toy for some child in need. Sending love is so good for the giver.
2. I took a friend/client to a Christmas event at the Buckhead Club. I paid for her to go and was paid back in full by sharing her company and her joy from the event.
3. We’ve received so many sweets as gifts this year. We like to stay healthy and it looked like we would get “sugared out”. So, I re-gifted the delicious (and so tempting) Mrs. Field’s Cookie Basket that we received to our wonderful contractors (not an oxymoron, at last). They lit up, and it was delightful to see. My waistline is also very grateful.
4. I gave the gift of attention and appreciation. I asked an attendant at the bank a question. She immediately offered to get the answer for me, which meant taking her time to go across the bank and ask someone else. I was pressed for time and didn’t feel like waiting. However, I could tell that she really wanted to give good service. It made her feel good to help me. So, I waited and thanked her graciously for her time and service. She was pleased and I ended up doing all I needed to do.
5. One of the best gifts I’ve ever given is the one I’m creating for my Mom’s 80th birthday. It’s a Voice Quilt (www.voicequilt). I’ve called and emailed her friends and family. They’ve been calling in to the Voicequilt.com phone number and leaving messages for her – telling about how much they care and stories they’ve shared. It’s so heartwarming listening to the messages. I cry each time I do. And, I’m so excited to see her response. Definitely a wonderful gift.
6. In reference to the above. I found out about Voicequilt from the founder Hope Flammer. She emailed me that she heard me speak 4 years ago and was inspired to create this business. She’s so happy that she did, and I’m so very happy that I was able to inspire her. Sigh.
7. My husband has been out of town and is coming home this evening. He just loves my spinach lasagna and so do I. It will be waiting here for him when he arrives. He’s very excited and I’m going to just love creating this treat for him.
Wishing you all the most joyful of holidays.
Tags: Coaching, counseling, Giving, insight, inspiration, intuition, intuitive coaching, intuitive insight, life lessons, self help, transformation
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Monday, December 7th, 2009
Today I thoroughly enjoyed watching my husband using his birthday gift. Dave had fallen back on his workouts. He’s been terribly busy running his point-of-sale promotional printing business in a tough economy. And, he’s been an amazing caregiver this year, taking care of me (through Cancer treatment). For his birthday I bought him sessions with Joseph, our amazing personal trainer. Umm, he looked good today. And, he’s getting healthier, too. It works for him, and it’s definitely working for me.
Tags: Giving, intuition, intuitive, intuitive coaching, intuitive insight, life lessons, relationships, self help
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Sunday, December 6th, 2009
On Day 8 of the Gratitude Challenge I had a blast doing my radio show, Unlimited Success & Fulfillment. I host this web radio show every 1st and 3rd Friday of the month at 1 pm.
Today I spoke with Rochele Hirsch, international consultant and the originator of the Theory of How Come (www.beforethebehavior.com), about my present article “You’re Just Not Worth It”. We engaged in a fascinating discussion about how to stay centered and joyful during the holidays and always. Rochele talked about key stressors and triggers that are imprinted, and how to avoid reacting to them. It was a fun and informative discussion, and both Rochele, my audience and I learned a great deal. You can listen to this episode at http://web.me.com/deborahhillflach/Podcasts.Radio/podcasts.radio.speeches/Entries/2009/12/4_YoureJustNotWorthIt.html
Tune in on December 18 when I’ll be talking with “The Gratitude Girls” about the Gratitude Challenge: http://www.divatoolbox.com/diva-toolbox-radio-/hosts/1904-deborah-hill-the-awareness-initiative.html
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Tuesday, September 29th, 2009
Yesterday was Yom Kippur – a day when Jews around the world atone for their sins and seek to deeply connect with God. One of the passages in my prayer book is very meaningful to me. It speaks about the journey of life and how we move through it learning our lessons and growing. I think its wisdom is a direct hit, revealing what life is about. I’d like to share it with you:
Birth is a beginning
And death a destination.
And life is a journey:
From childhood to maturity
And youth to age;
From innocence to awareness
And ignorance to knowing;
From foolishness to discretion
And then, perhaps, to wisdom;
From weakness to strength
Or strength to weakness –
And, often, back again;
From health to sickness
And back, we pray, to health again;
From offense to forgiveness,
From loneliness to love,
From joy to gratitude,
From pain to compassion,
And grief to understanding –
From fear to faith;
From defeat to defeat to defeat –
Until, looking backward or ahead,
We see that victory lies
Not at some high place along the way,
But in having made the journey, stage by stage,
A sacred pilgrimage.
Birth is a beginning
And death a destination.
And life is a journey,
A sacred pilgrimage –
To life everlasting.
This is a time of great change on many levels. People are realizing that the old systems don’t work, and the present values are shallow. I’m coaching more and more people who are in transition, looking to find where their hearts lie and what they truly value. I feel that what we’re experiencing is a period time that potentiates a huge spiritual shift on this “sacred pilgrimage.” I’m praying for it. I’m looking for a time when people connect with their essential self and with that of others.
May journey year be joyful this year.
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Wednesday, September 23rd, 2009
We know that we are all different. Each one of us has habits that work for us, but not for others. In fact, our habits and behaviors may be very irritating to someone else – especially a mate or someone we work with. I’m learning that if I step back and evaluate the differences objectively I may be able to not only accept them, I can benefit from them.
For example, my husband, Dave, and I are very different in some ways. One place we differ is in how we approach a task. I like to get things done as quickly and efficiently as possible. I dive into it and focus on only the task at hand. Dave takes his time and is more relaxed about when things get done.
One day we were involved in fixing things around the house. We needed some tools to complete the task and went to Home Depot. My mind was on the task at hand, knowing that we had plans for the evening. I felt that we needed to work quickly on the repairs so that we’d be finished before dinner.
When we arrived at Home Depot I went right for the tool aisle and found an employee to help me find the correct tool. I directly asked for the tool I was looking for, and when he answered I thanked him and went to get the tool.
Dave was appalled. He felt that I’d mistreated the employee. His approach would have been to introduce himself to the person, be friendly and make some pleasant conversation before asking for information. I felt like I didn’t have time for all the conversation. I just wanted to get the job done.
It took some work, but we eventually were able to see that our different styles can actually be complementary. I keep track of time and Dave’s the PR guy. Dave gathers information and gets to know everyone while I get the tool or products we need.
We’re actually learning from each other, as well. After being around him for some time I find myself asking people’s names and taking a little more time with them – even though I’m on a “mission.” Dave, on the other hand, has become a lot more focused on doing things within a certain time period.
I’m learning that the habits in others that cause me the most angst may be the ones that complement me and teach me the most. So much to learn.
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