Archive for the ‘Life management’ Category
Thursday, August 12th, 2010
Here are some tips to help you:
1. Please be kind to you. Realize that the situation is challenging. Emotional reverb is expected. Your emotions, like a sad child, will have a lot to say. Honor your feelings by noticing them and breathing through them. Let yourself calm yourself with your love and breath.
2. Download the limiting belief worksheet and the belief busting sheet from the bottom right side of my homepage (www.theawarenessinitiative.com). This will help you to pinpoint the beliefs that are supporting your pain. It will also help you to support that emotional child that is hurting right now.
3. Love the child and support her, but don’t honor the thoughts that are generated. Thoughts about what happened, what you did wrong, what will happen, what someone else did wrong, whether you’ll be able to handle this, how you SHOULD be …. are very unproductive.
The only way to deal with these thoughts is to stop thinking them. Don’t follow the train of thought. You have built a neuropath in your brain that you follow and you become it. Don’t follow it. Don’t become your thought. Drop the thought completely and return to your center. If you can’t do this meditate more often so that you learn how to not get caught up in the mind.
Meanwhile, there are other tricks: Think of something more productive. Think of anything else – things that aren’t relevant to the situation. Think about things you need to do or things you enjoy. Look around you and notice trees or flowers… or a Prada handbag, if that’s your thing. Look up at the sky. Think about your garden. Like a child, distract your mind from its obsessive, painful pattern.
There is nothing to be gained by thinking about painful issues. You can’t fix your pain this way. It’s a mind myth.
Honor the tremendous opportunity to build up your mind control muscles, and return to emotional support of yourself. Love you. And know, this too shall pass and you’ll be happier and stronger than you’ve ever been.
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Wednesday, July 28th, 2010
A difference between successful and non-successful people is often: Non-successful people work to be as good as others, and to be accepted and appreciated. Successful people most often work to improve and grow, to be the best they can be.
At another level, the difference between successful people and fulfilled people is whether they measure success by where they stand against others, or whether they strive to best themselves – viewing others with respect and appreciation as fellow players.
In other words, unsuccessful people see themselves as below the water, trying to get to the surface. Successful people see themselves as swimmers, working to swim farther. Fulfilled people feel a part of the river, enjoying the opportunity to become better swimmers and enjoying the opportunities.
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Sunday, July 18th, 2010
Chuck DesJardins, Ph.D., http://www.linkedin.com/in/drdesjardins, asked the following thought provoking question on LinkedIn:
“When you think of self-actualization, do you think of it as a person reaching their goals, or do you see it as a more deep soulish experience? Soulish, in the sense that the person who is self-actualizing is experiencing not only behavioral changes, but psychological and philosophical changes.”
FYI, here’s my answer:
If we are in touch with and being our essential self, we will proceed appropriately on our path. It may be rocky and challenging, but that doesn’t mean we’re not actualizing. It means we’re growing. Self actualization is a journey without end. The key to knowing if we’re on our path and moving in the right direction is trusting in our own knowing, gut, intuition and truth.
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Friday, June 18th, 2010
I loved the “6 steps to taking a big step” article in the June, 2010 O Magazine and want to share a quote that I think is very relevant to anyone making a change or moving in a new direction:
“Find comfort in discomfort. ’Remember, it’s supposed to hurt; you’re supposed to feel sore.’ says Debbie Ford. She’s not talking about just the physical aches and pains of the couch potato turned triathlon competitor, but also the mental and emotional uneasiness of the would-be CEO or aspiring artist. ‘Accept that you’ll never get rid of self-doubt.’ Todd Kashdan says. ‘An adventurous person will always have moments of feeling like a fraud – it’s a sign that you’re creating new roles for yourself, that you’re evolving. It means you’re doing great, passionate work.” – Jessica Winter
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Wednesday, May 26th, 2010
Unlimit your life and business by listening in to Unlimited Life Radio. My guest on Friday, May 28 at 1 PM EST is Medium Mark Anthony, the “Psychic Lawyer”.
Mark Anthony the “Psychic Lawyer” is a practicing medium who specializes in communication with spirits. He is descended from a long line of psychically gifted people. For over a century, the psychics and mediums in his family have used their gifts to help people.
Mr. Anthony is also a successful attorney, licensed to practice law in Florida, Washington D.C., and before the United States Supreme Court. He earned his law degree from Mercer University in Georgia and studied law at Oxford University, England.
Mark is an accomplished public speaker who regularly discusses Life after Death and Contact with the Spirit World. He has appeared on national television and radio. The Media call upon him as an expert in spirit contact and the paranormal. He often serves as a guest lecturer at universities, civic, religious, spiritual, and grief support groups.www.HealGriefWithBelief.com
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Tuesday, April 27th, 2010
Listened do an “oldey” the other day and realized that The Pet Shop Boys gave perfect advice on how to judge if something is working for you or not: “Oh, I missed it. The more that it hurts, the less that it works.”
Somewhere in time I was taught that pain means gain. After years of dealing with pain I have to say, and years of gain, this is dead wrong. I don’t agree that we have to experience pain to have gain. My gain was not proportional to my pain. I’m giving up this limiting belief and embracing a new belief: Joy leads to more joy. Success is born from doing what feels good, not what hurts.
I’m not saying that life isn’t full of challenges. They happen. I can and will learn the lessons and move on. But, I don’t have to buy into the pain and do what hurts in order to get to where I want to go. Instead, I prefer to do what feels right and good right now.
I am now creating a fulfilling and successful life one breath at a time. Starting now.
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Thursday, April 22nd, 2010
Transform your goals and dreams into reality with this simple and powerful tool. Creating a Vision Board helps you focus on what’s most important and effortlessly attract it into your life. Many high-achieving, joyful people, like Oprah Winfrey and Jack Canfield, use Vision Boards. Now, you can too! This fun, inspiring and transformational workshop is facilitated by Intuitive Coach/Counselor Deborah Hill and Wisdom Mentor Tricia Molloy.
At this workshop, you will:
• Clearly define your goals and dreams.
• Release limiting beliefs and break through your obstacles
• Learn how to tap into the power of visualization
• Create your own Vision Board
• Experience a visualization exercise that will activate your goals and dreams
Where: The Open Mind Center, 1575 Old Alabama Road, Roswell, GA 30076 www.theopenmindcenter.com
When: Saturday, May 22, 2010 / 9:30 am to 12:30 pm
Investment: $119, Early Bird Discount until 4/30/10. $139 after 4/30/10. (This includes all materials and parking.)
Refund available before 5/10/10. Invite a friend to join you. To assure personal attention in the creation of your Vision Board, this workshop is limited to 10 people, so register early! Our January and February workshops sold out.
For more information or to register: http://www.theawarenessinitiative.com/store or call 404-459-0590.
We also offer private Vision Board workshops for your business, association or social group.
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Saturday, April 10th, 2010
I love this response from a client to my “What’s backing you up” blog (below) and article (www.theawarenessinitiative.com)…
People who “Back You Up” keep you in the past, steaming about “How could they DO that?!” while people who “Have Your Back” keep you in the present and moving forward. So much better to surround yourself with people who “have your back” instead of those who” back – and jack! –you up”…
So very true.
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Tuesday, April 6th, 2010
My husband and I were calling a bank officer yesterday via conference mode and got her assistant. The assistant said she’d give the message to the officer with our phone number. My husband said, “Thanks. Goodbye.” The assistant hung up. No “goodbye” or closure. Nothing. Just click.
Dave said, “That really backs me up. Why can’t people have the courtesy to say, ‘Goodbye?’” I agreed, it would be kind and respectful to say “Goodbye.” However, I pounced on the phrase, “Backed me up.” It’s so spot on. It’s exactly what happens when we get upset with people or life in general. We take issue with something and it backs us up. We get out of present time and start ranting and raving internally (or externally for those more verbal), instead of moving on with our intended life.
Why isn’t life the way we think it should be? Why don’t people act the way we think they should? Why are there so many pebbles, rocks and walls in the road? Perhaps it’s so that we learn to not get backed up by them. It’s just the way it is. We have to deal with it. Stay with what is on our plate and don’t let these obstacles back us up.
How can we avoid it? Here are some tips. First, watch it happen and you’ll know how toxic self righteousness can be. Other ways I cope:
1. Laugh at it. Make a joke.
2. Have compassion. The assistant is either having a bad day or a bad life. She’s stuck somewhere. I send love.
3. Maintain my boundaries. Say to myself, “Sorry, you’re just not worth it.” My happiness is more important than getting irritated by you.
4. Evaluate myself. Note to self, “Hmm. I hope I don’t do that. I need to be conscious of that behavior and see if I do that. It could be a sign or a lesson.”
5. Focus on the present. Say to myself, “It’s not my problem.” Is it? Can I work around this? Is this what I want to focus on now?
There are many opportunities in life to grow. An abrupt assistant gave me the opportunity to notice something in life and share it with you.
Enjoy the ride.
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Monday, April 5th, 2010
Join Deborah on Unlimited Success and Fulfillment radio on Friday at 1 pm, when she interviews Ariel and Shya Kane.
Deborah’s guests today are Ariel and Shya Kane. Internationally-acclaimed seminar leaders and award-winning authors, Ariel & Shya were avid seekers for many years until they ultimately discovered, over 20 years ago, that “Working on Yourself Doesn’t Work”…this is actually the title of their best-selling book, published by McGraw-Hill. This discovery led them not only to living a satisfying, fulfilling, stress-free life with consistency, but also to teaching thousands of people across the globe how to do this, as well. Their approach is based in awareness, which they define as a non-judgmental seeing of what is; when you live your life with awareness, the unconscious restrictions that limit your life can dissolve effortlessly.
The Kanes are masters of transformation, the ability to live in the moment and dissolve problems through awareness. Since 1987, they have inspired individuals and organizations across the globe, bringing people through the swamp of the mind, into the clarity and brilliance of the moment. The Kanes’ transformational approach has a unique flavor that is designed for modern day circumstances and complexities while resonating with universal truths of the ages. You can learn more about them and their award-winning books, seminars, and Excellence Club online community at www.TransformationMadeEasy.com.
Tune in online April 9 at 1 pm EST at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/intuitivecoach and/or phone (347) 838-9831.
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